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Posted by / 27-Aug-2017 05:05

Perhaps, they are recently divorced or widowed, and legitimately not ready to get involved in an intimate relationship.

Then, there are those who are too afraid of taking the risk of falling in love because they have been hurt too much in their previous relationships.

Have you ever met someone who "romantically" knocked you off your feet -- as in "Hi Mom and Dad...

A water engineer named Bob, he had two grown kids and, like me, was recently widowed.

Though his picture was unappealingly stiff and his mention (twice) of wanting to find a “soul mate” made me wince (twice), several lines in his profile caught my attention.

In the “I’m looking for” section, he’d written: “A partner, a companion, someone with whom to share experiences, both good and bad, a best friend, a lover, an advocate, a defender.” I liked the dimensionality of that portrait, with its acknowledgment of both “good and bad.” Unlike the many guys who’d mindlessly reached for clichés about moonlit strolls along the beach, this man sounded thoughtful. “Mutual respect and an ability to compromise are essential,” he wrote.

My own profile had spoken of compromise and mutual trust, dynamics that had proved essential during my marriage to Joe. Perhaps most appealing, just as I’d made clear in my profile that I loved my late husband, Bob wrote glowingly about his late wife of 38 years.

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In subsequent days, we emailed back and forth, then switched to phone calls as our conversation deepened.